Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
She did the exam... which was extremely painful... I mean for real people... and I'm 1 cm dilated, which doesn't mean a lot, but that I am progressing. She also said, the big kicker, that she doesn't want us to go past 39 weeks because of the bp issues and risks to my health. So, we will be having a baby on or before Jan. 14!! Very exciting.
I asked about bedrest and activity level, and she said I can do a little more, even go run an errand or two, just no majorly long outings. So yay for no more home-bound bedrest! I did tell her that I really didn't want to go back to work. It's not so much that I wouldn't mind going in to work for a little while next week, but it would be hard to get back in the swing of things. I get really tired and out of breath easy. She didn't have a problem writing me a note that I need to stay home through the rest of the pregnany and 6 weeks postpartum. Plus if I go back at all, I start over with 2 weeks unpaid before I get short term disability. So maybe I'm a little lazy, and maybe we will need the money. I just think it's better if I don't go back. I will spend most of my time at home, but maybe we can go to the movies or out to eat this weekend. That will be nice. Maybe I can get a massage or a haircut.
So things are looking pretty good for today!
Appt is at 1:40 pm central time, so I will update when I get home, whenever that may be. I may test out mobile blogger if I'm going to be there for a while.
Monday, December 29, 2008
So I'm all alone today in the big quiet house. My throat is sore, so I hope I'm not getting sick. BP was up and down yesterday. I think highest was about 138/92 or something, not great, but not horrible. Going to the dr tomorrow afternoon, so we'll see what she wants to do with us then.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
So instead of posting about how bored I am and how much my back hurts... I will share some pics of my baby shower from my in-laws. This little monkey-cupcake-set-up was so dern cute.
And my SIL made this precious arrangement for the table and for me with the little animals. She is so creative.
And I got lots of presents, lots of clothes, blankets, books, and the high chair, play pen, and monitor.
And here is me in all my big glory... and that was 3 weeks ago, on 12/7. I like this picture though.
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Dear Lord, Please heal Summer. Calm her body and mind. Allow her baby to stay inside her and grow healthy and strong. Be with her family as they take care of her and her son Ethan. Amen.
Oh and just for fun... I swear that none of my maternity clothes fit anymore. Well, they are pretty dang tight anyways. It's almost 80ºF here this week, hotter than it has been in a while, so I need short sleeves, and those shirts are not fitting. So I raided Nathan's side of the closet. His soft Old Navy polo shirt is nice n comfy! He said, "why are you wearing my nice shirt?" I said "It's comfy. Do you want me to take it off?" He said "no."
So here we go again, another day of non-excitement, which is good. It has been nice that Nathan has been home a lot to keep me company. And I'll only be home alone Mon, Tues, and Wed next week since he'll be off for New Year's Day and the day after. Then things will get tough if I have to be home for 2 weeks alone... But I'm trying to take things one day at a time. I do wish I could go to the mall or to the movies, but I'll survive. Well I'm off to go shopping, online that is. Have a great day.
Friday, December 26, 2008
Yesterday was pretty uneventful. Mom and Mya came over around 11:00 and ate lunch and visited and brought presents. Then I took a nap, hung out with Nathan, took a bath, and then his parents came over at 9:00 pm. They didn't stay too long though. They brought us lots of nice presents. It kind of makes you feel bad when you say you're not buying presents, but then you are the only one who actually does not buy presents. It's not really fair. I guess now we know that even when we say that people will buy stuff. It also makes me feel bad because everybody has done so much for us for baby stuff, then buys us presents, and we have nothing to give them... We did buy presents for all the kids, so I guess that counts for something. Oh well.
Thursday, December 25, 2008
2 The people walking in darkness have seen a great light; on those living in the land of the shadow of death a light has dawned.
3 You have enlarged the nation and increased their joy; they rejoice before you as people rejoice at the harvest, as men rejoice when dividing the plunder.
4 For as in the day of Midian's defeat, you have shattered the yoke that burdens them, the bar across their shoulders, the rod of their oppressor.
5 Every warrior's boot used in battle and every garment rolled in blood will be destined for burning, will be fuel for the fire.
6 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
7 Of the increase of his government and peace there will be no end. He will reign on David's throne and over his kingdom, establishing and upholding it with justice and righteousness from that time on and forever. The zeal of the LORD Almighty will accomplish this.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
This is my niece Mya and nephew Omar. The look on her face in this pic is hilarious. You might have to enlarge the pic to see it. She is such a drama queen.
This is my SIL (brother's wife) and my lovely husband watching the kids open presents.
Hopefully they will take some pics tomorrow so I can see all the fun.
I got a call from my health insurance and they approved me for short term disability for the rest of the pregnancy. So that is reassuring. It is only 60% pay, but with me staying home, I'm not really spending any money, using any gas, or going out to eat, so hopefully it won't be too tough.
I did have a rough night last night. BP was high, around 140/95, I was very uncomfortable all over, and I was having lots of BH conttractions till about 2:00 am. They came every 5 minutes for a few hours, but they were getting weaker instead of stronger, so I was pretty sure it was not labor. I was hoping I made the right decision not going to the hospital, and I think I did. I slept pretty decent from 2:00 till 9:30 am. Now the contractions are just one or two an hour, still weak. He's moving really well today. It's just so crazy going through this for the first time, not knowing exactly what to expect. I think the sound of the keyboard clicking is making him kick me really hard LOL.
I hope everyone has a great Christmas Eve with family and friends. Hold everyone dear. Give lots of hugs and kisses.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
I spent some time on the computer filing for my short term disability. I think I'm still a little bit in denial that I will be out of work till the baby comes. But I seriously doubt that my blood pressure will miraculousy stay low and even if it does that the dr will let me go back to work. So I filed the information, talked to HR, told them what is going on, and now I'm waiting for the health insurance rep to call me and ask me questions and tell me what I need to do. Not exactly all calm and stress free activities, but knowing that money will be coming in will help with my stress about paying the bills. For a girl who has worked the past 5.5 years straight with only hurricanes and short vacations as breaks from work, the thought of all this time off is crazy. I would like 8 weeks after the baby comes, so if the baby does wait 4 weeks, that is 12 weeks. If the baby waits less, then less. Crazy that a little tiny boy that I haven't even met yet is running the show.
Well, I hope everyone has a nice Christmas Eve Eve until the craziness of Christmas gets here. Remember Jesus's birth and the miracle of God's blessing to us all.
Monday, December 22, 2008
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Nathan put together the stroller, swing, and high chair last night. Not that we will need the high chair for a while, but I just want to make sure everything works right and has all its parts in case we need to take something back. So far, so good.
Friday, December 19, 2008
Thursday, December 18, 2008
I still need to buy a gift for my niece, grandpa, and Nathan's grandma. I'll probably try to knock it all out at Target. My feet can only go so many steps these days. Micah said something about an Elmo doll for Mya, so I'll see if they have that, if not I'll give him some money and he can hunt for it. Maybe I'll give her some coloring books or something too. Grandpa asked for some new cookie sheets. He bakes cookies (pre-made dough) all the time, especially around the holidays. So I'll try to find some nice ones for him. For Nathan's grandma, she is always complaining about being cold, so maybe a nice throw blanket. I mean, always complaining. It's funny. At Thanksgiving, we had a 20 minute conversation about how she is always cold, and how everybody is out to get her and make her freeze. She gets mad at people at church when they turn on the A/C and tells them that they must have high blood pressure and that's why they are hot. She leaves church when she gets too cold. Too funny...
Nancy mentioned she is having a hard time leaving comments. Anybody else? I will try to figure out what is going on and email somebody to help me.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
We just had our holiday pot luck lunch at work. The food was really good. We had kids from a local elementary school come and sing Christmas songs. It was such a nice treat. The kids were really cute and sang very well.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
My brother is in town this week for a job interview. He lives in San Antonio, about 6 hours away, but this job really sounds good. It would be great if he eventually moved down here. I know it will be a tough transition to get his wife and 3 kids here. He has my niece with him and will try to find childcare here. His wife works at a restaurant and works evenings sometimes, so it would be hard for her to have the little girl and find childcare. So it was good to see them last night. I'm hoping and praying that he gets this job. It would probably be really great pay. And I'm praying that if he gets it everything will work out.
Monday, December 15, 2008
I got the monitor to work! It makes the funny noises when the receiver and the listening devices are too close together. I turned on the radio in the nursery and listened in from our bedroom, and it worked fine.
We had a great time at the party Saturday night. I got tired pretty early because I did a lot on Saturday. I got pretty much all the rest of the baby stuff we needed, did laundry, returned something at Hobby Lobby, and bought a couple of maternity lounge pants at the mall. I hated spending more money on clothes, but I do need more comfy pants. They don't even look maternity, so they'll be good for after I have the baby. Saturday we also went to Best Buy and bought a camcorder. We were there forever. It was so busy and crowded. We ended up getting a hard drive camcorder that is small and cute and works very well. It holds hours of video. We also got a new computer. Thank goodness for 18 month no interest financing. Our "old" 4 year old computer was full and needed major upgrades and extra memory. The cost to do that was about the same as a new computer package. So we have lots of new toys to play with. I didn't get a chance to get on the new computer yet because Nathan was on it all night. But I'll be home before him today, so I'll get my turn.
I spent 3 hours yesterday on the couch writing thank you cards! It felt good to get them written. It's so important to me to express my grattitude to friends and family. I wrote 48 cards! And that doesn't count the 20 cards I already sent out to church friends! I still need to address envelopes and send them out. Hopefully this week I'll get that done.
I'm really wanting him to put together all the big baby stuff, the stroller, car seat, high chair, swing, bouncer... to make sure it all works. Plus I hate seeing all those big boxes everywhere. Maybe this weekend. We go to the perinatologist Friday for a growth scan. Hopefully baby boy is growing big and strong. I'm pretty sure he is, or at least I'm growing big...
Baby boy is coming soon. 5 weeks and 2 days left. I can't hardly believe it. And my friend Nancy is 2 days behind me, and Rachel is about 10 days ahead of me! It would be crazy if babies were born on the same day. I really feel a special connection to these ladies who I've gone through the pregnancy with.
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Friday, December 12, 2008
I'm training my replacement for when I'm on maternity leave, and man... we have a lot to learn. I'm so used to working with younger people who are good on the computer, type fast, and remember things easily. He's doing a good job, but if I was working with one of the other engineers, we wouldn't have to go over all of this. They wanted someone with lots of experience to fill in for me in case they have a strike and need the person to take on a lot of project responsibility. So they picked someone with lots of project experience, but no experience at this facility and slow on the computer. So I'm trying to be patient and nice and a good teacher. Some days patience and manners are hard to practice.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
"Estimates of snowfall at 7:30 a.m. were two inches at the Southeast Texas Regional Airport, Beaumont and Groves, and one inch in Nederland, Port Neches and Orange, Escude said.
This is the earliest measurable snowfall at the airport since the late 1800s, Escude said. It is also an all time record of snowfall for the area for the month of December. "
Schools actually had late starts this morning, mostly because of the dangers of driving around. We're just not prepared here for icy roads. Plus it gave the kids a chance to play in the snow, probably for the only time in their lifetime around here.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
I rested more last night and my back didn't hurt so bad, so I guess I need to try and limit my activity to a little bit each night and not do too much.
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Then...... I went to BRU and it didn't go so well. I told the lady I would like to return some things. She said that they will only take a return without a receipt if it is something on the registry. So I couldn't return anything! Not even the mobile that a dear friend bought that was the wrong one. I told her that the two mobile look almost exactly alike on the package, but that I got the wrong one. She talked to her manager, and both of them just sat there and shook their heads and looked at me like I was stupid. So I just walked out mad. I'm sure they didn't care. Oh well, the mobile will still look good. It's just the principle that I brought a lot of business to their store, and they could care less.
So I went to Target and bought some other things we didn't get, a swing, boppy, more burp clothes, changing pad, and other little things that somehow added up to $250.
Good news - I got the check in the mail for $230 that I overpaid the gas company! So things are working out. Kind of nice when you spend a bunch of money to get a check in the mail. And baby boy passed the NST yesterday.
I slept so bad last night. My back was really hurting. Probably the hours I spent on my feet shopping and the hours I spent working on stuff in the nursery. I think I'm going to have to force myself to rest tonight. It's so hard when I want to get stuff done to sit on my butt! But my body just can't keep up with what my mind wants to do.
Monday, December 8, 2008
I spent about 2 hours in the nursery last night arranging things, and I still have a lot of work to do. I'm just getting things in baskets together until I decide where to store them. I haven't filled his closet and chest of drawers yet, so we still have plenty of storage room. We haven't opened up the big things yet, but hopefully this weekend we'll get that done. I have my NST appt at the dr at 2:30 today, and if I get out at a decent time, I might go to Walmart and try to exchange some things.
- There is one monkey toy that we got 4 of!
- We only got one baby bottle!
- Yesterday brought in 18 newborn outfits!
- No burp rags!
Of course, I just think it's funny that people think along the same lines. I guess bottles and burp rags are not fun. But if that is all we have to buy for the baby, that is great! We did get a few gift cards and some money, so we really are set. I also need a full sized diaper bag, the swing, and maybe some other little things.
Nathan had to go to work yesterday morning, work till about noon, go to the shower for a little while, then go back to work till about 6:00 pm. When he got home, I was in the nursery arranging things. He helped me decide which clothes to keep and which to try to exchange. Of course, if it says "Daddy" in any way, it's a keeper. Then he was looking through the books, and I asked him to read one to us. He read us "Green Eggs and Ham." And he read it so well, not just boring and quick. The baby started to move around like he was enjoying it. I get teary-eyed thinking about it. It was really a special time for us.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
The baby shower yesterday given by my friends was really awesome. Words can't begin to describe how grateful I am for the love, hard work, and time that was put into making this happen. This picture is of the lovely hostesses, from the left, Jill, Heather, Tiffany, me, Tabatha, and Vanissa. The shower was at Vanissa's house. She had the house set up very nicely for the shower. Everything really looked great. The food was wonderful. Mom brought the cake, red velvet, yummmm. The girls did such a great job. I hope I can at least take them to dinner one night soon to thank them. Then, if all of the hard work wasn't enough, they all pitched in to buy the biggest thing on my registry, the huge montrosity of a stroller/car seat combo! Wow! I'm very blessed to have such great friends. And Chesley is blessed to have so many wonderful people ready to take him in and love him!
This is me, Jennifer, Heather, and Tiffany relaxing for a minute. This might have been the only time Tiffany sat down during the whole shower. Yes, I notice these things...
These two diaper cakes are so cute!! The one on the left was made by Gail, and the one of the right by Heather. I don't think I can bear to take them apart, but everything there is usable!
And a big thanks to Ricky, Tiffany's husband, for coming over to the shower and loading everything in his truck, bringing it all to my house, and carrying everything upstairs to the nursery. Nathan got called out to work for this whole weekend. This is the first time in a long time for that to happen, of course the day I have a baby shower. And he's working today too. I hope he gets off in time to go to the baby shower today given by his family. A lot of people will want to see him. And a big thanks to Shawn and Vanissa for allowing us to use their lovely home. I know it was a lot of work to get everything together. It really looked great. Vanissa even had de-caff coffee for me. Talk about thinking of everything!
I'm seriously getting teary-eyed thinking about all that everybody did for me and Chesley and Nathan yesterday. A big thanks to everyone who hosted, attended, and helped with the shower.
Saturday, December 6, 2008
I'm praying for Jessica today as she mourns and celebrates the 6 month birthday into earth and into heaven of her son Treyson.
I'm praying for my friend today as she grieves the loss of a pregnancy that did not come to be after much intensive treatment.
I'm praying for Jewels today as she struggles to believe what the pregnancy test is telling her, that for today, she is pregnant. She has experienced loss, and I know that her mind is full of what ifs.
I'm praying for a blessing for my baby shower today that my child will soon know all of the people that love him and work hard to give him the things he needs.
Friday, December 5, 2008
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Here are the nursery pics as promised! Now there is the crib, armoire, rug, and the futon in the room. The dresser is in the sunroom that is joined to this room. So our little boy will have plenty of room to play, and maybe I can sit down for a minute on the futon.
I know that people can't help but stare and comment at me, but I sure will be glad when my body is back to some state of normal. I just don't understand how being pregnant makes people think they have a right to comment about my body and touch my body. I really don't like it. Every day someone has something dumb to say. I really feel like a weirdo sometimes. I love the fact that I'm having a baby. It's just annoying to deal with all of the comments. What do I say when someone says, "You look pregnant" or "Your belly is big" besides, "Yes I am." "Yes it is."
Work is really getting busy for me. A lot of things I've been waiting on are all coming together. Hopefully I can do what I need to do before it's time to leave. Also, my fill-in person is coming on Friday, so I will have to try and get my work done and teach him a lot! Yikes!
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
Monday, December 1, 2008
I dropped my SLR camera yesterday. I was very upset, but then I called Nathan, and he told me we have an extended warranty that covers accidents! Yay! I might try to take it in before my dr appt. I really want to have it working for this weekend for the baby showers.
I also ordered some prints from my maternity pics to frame and give to my mom and MIL. The prices are so good, and I decided I would like to hang a couple up on the wall. One of them that is fully clothed is really pretty, so maybe Nathan can put it in his office and think about me... Aww...
He fixed the roof!! Poor thing, he worked so hard. He was off all week on "vacation" but he worked everyday. The one day it rained, he was taking apart and putting back together furniture to rearrange things for the nursery. It looks really great. I will try to take some pics when the camera gets fixed. I'm thankful to have a strong healthy husband!
Friday, November 28, 2008
Thursday, November 27, 2008
So as I sit and wait for the food to bake, I have a moment to reflect on my life and what I'm thankful for.
Thank you God for giving me loving parents that brought me up with good values and prepared me for the big world. Thank you that they were able to send me to a good college. Thank you for giving me a big dose of motivation to finish college and get a great job. Thank you for placing Nathan in my life. Thank you for allowing us to be parents to one of your newest children.
Thank you for all my friends and family out there reading this message. I pray that everyone has a great day and takes a moment to share what they are thankful for.
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
So today should be a pretty crazy day too. I'm "working" till 11:30, meeting my friends for lunch, going to the grocery store (ughhh) to fight the crowds, then cooking broccoli cheese casserole, cornbread dressing, green beans, and broccoli salad for tomorrow. I will probably do all of the prep work and some of the cooking today and bake everything tomorrow morning. My brother and two of the kids came in last night from San Antonio, so maybe he will come hang out with me while I cut up millions of vegetables and cook. Hopefully I don't wear myself out too much. Last night, I was tired and hungry on the way home, and I had lots of BH contractions.
I hope everybody has a great day today getting ready for tomorrow! I will try to post tomorrow, but if I don't, Happy Thanksgiving!
I'm thankful for friends and family that make my life fulfilling and keep me busy!
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Kind of scary seeing me all out there, but I really wanted to share the pics to help Amber get more maternity clients. She did such a great job. I really like the pics with the baby shoes.
Today Nathan is working on fixing the flat roof that has been leaking. I'm thankful that my husband is big and strong and knows how to work on our house. I know he doesn't like doing it, but I'm glad he is willing to. I'm also thankful that we got our sewer problem fixed. I think another problem is coming though. It seems like our water from the tap had dirt in it. Yuck! If it's not one thing, it's another. We got our cat fixed yesterday, the little orange one. He is my little baby, so I was worried about him, but he is ok. He was still drugged up when we picked him up yesterday, but this morning, he was back to normal and wanting to be petted and loved.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Nancy and Jewels had posts last week about implanting embryos and abortion that were very thought provoking. I can't help but share my thoughts.
For those unfamiliar with terms and situations for selective reduction, let me explain. Selective reduction is basically ending the life of a fetus, usually using a chemical solution, usually done in the first trimester. This can be done for a variety of reasons, including a terminal pregnancy where the infant how little or no chance for survival, and high order multiples.
For more information, see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selective_reduction
High order multiples (I'm defining as more than two fetuses) can occur for many reasons: naturally, after transferring embryos, after insemination, or with the use of fertility drugs and intercourse.
In transferring embryos, there are statistics that predict how many transferred embryos will implant and grow. For instance, a woman could transfer three and be told her chances for no pregnancy is 60%, singleton is 20%, twins is 17%, and triplets is 2.9%, and the chances of an embryo splitting to have quadruplets is .1% (made that up). She would have to make the best decision she could. Her decision would probably changed based on her age, financial situation, quality of embryos, and her thoughts on how many children she could handle. Hard decisions.
For an insemination or timed intercouse with the use of fertility drugs to stimulate the ovaries, things are different. A woman may be told, you have 3 follicles that could produce eggs. She has to decide if she is ok with possibly having 3 embryos form. Or she could be told she has 4 follicles. She has to decide where to draw the line and say no. That would be hard to say after she has invested time and money into a cycle.
It's hard to say what I think is right and wrong. I think there is a line to draw. To me, a small chance of quadruplets would be a good place to draw the line. More than 4 embryos to transfer or more than 4 follicles for IUI or intercouse seems like too much for sure. I don't think I would transfer more than 2 embryos because of our history of transferring two and getting two to implant.
But, who am I to judge people for their decisions? Selective reduction sounds so much more acceptable than abortion to some people, but really, it's the same, a life lost. But then again... what about our frozen embryos? What if we are not able to transfer all 9 of our embryos? I like to think life begins when the embryo attaches to the uterus. But some people may define life starting at conception. It won't be an easy thing to do for us to let them go if we have to, but where does that rank on the terrible people meter?
I'm pro-life, but I hate abortion. I hope we can concentrate on how to help women avoid having to do selective reduction and abortion by having adoption programs and having REs counsel women on the dangers of high order multiples. I've actually seen women post on message boards about using some of their leftover medications on their own, not supervised by their dr!! That is horrible! That could result in high order multiples or OHSS (ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome) which can result in severe pain and even death for a woman.
Bottom line, this is a very sensitive topic, and decisions of this nature should be given much thought and should be guided by a competent doctor.
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Saturday, November 22, 2008
My friend Britton had her baby on Friday, and I'm hoping to go to the hospital tonight and see him. She had a planned c-section due to previous uterine surgery. The baby was over 9 lbs! Can't wait to meet him and see how she is doing.
Friday, November 21, 2008
Maternity pictures turned out great! Amber Hamilton is the photographer. She is super sweet and did a great job. As soon as she gets the gallery up, I'll let you all know, and you can see the pics!
We had a plumber come out, and he thinks the problem is not cracked pipes under the house, but plugged line and bad installation of a clean out. That's the good news. Price to fix is $585. Not anything super high, but a little more than we thought. So we may get another estimate and decide what to do.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
I really struggled with taking my maternity pictures without Nathan, but I'm going to go ahead and do it today. I'll probably feel a little less insecure without him there and be more open to what the photographer wants to do. Plus it will be a surprise when he sees them.
Tonight is our last baby class. It's the baby care class. I don't expect to learn anything completely new, but like I've said before, I'll take all the help I can get. Tomorrow we're heading to Houston to the perinatologist for our level II scan for growth. Hopefully little boy is growing big and strong.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
First of all, I forgot to pay Entergy (electric company) this month their $267. So yesterday I quickly sent an e-payment to them (so I thought). BUT I somehow accidentally sent the money to Centerpoint Energy (gas company) who I already paid this month, and that bill is only about $30 a month. I called Centerpoint, and they got my money, but it will take 2 - 4 weeks to get my refund. WHAT??!! We'll survive, but now I get to pay Entergy their $267, plus the next bill is due $256 on Dec. 5. Guess I should pay more attention next times.
I planned on coming in to work late today because a plumber was supposed to come and pump out the nasty sewage water from under our house and see what is leaking. I saw him get to our house around 8:00, got dressed, and was about to go outside to see him, then he was gone. Nathan called me to tell me that the guy tried to call him, but wasn't answering now. Apparently, the guy decided that he is too big to get under our house. Ummm.. Duh! Saturday when he came he said he would send "his guys" over to do the work. Either he doesn't have any guys, didn't pay attention Saturday when he saw how much room was under our house, or he just doesn't want the job. So back to square zero on that. Yes, there is raw sewage under our house, and yes, at times we can smell it in the house.
This was technically last night, but I'm counting it for today. Nathan finally got a hold of the insurance adjustor. We are trying to settle our claim for damages to our house during Hurricane Ike. Damages aren't major, but they do need to be fixed. She said that she tried to call us previously and left a message (Um, no you didn't) and that roofers came to our house and inspected our roof. They supposedly found quite a bit of damage to the main part of the roof, so she is including that in our claim. She said that they were not going to cover the only part of the roof that actually is leaking (WHAT??!!), but they are covering the ceiling under that part of the roof (OK?). So, if you've never had a big insurance claim, you would think, "ok, so fix what needs repair and don't fix what you don't want to mess with." BUT, (as we say in TX) this is not our first rodeo. We had extensive damage after Hurricane Rita, so we know how this goes. The insurance determines how much money the damages will cost, then (since we have a mortgage) they send a check to us written to the bank. We send the check to the bank, and the bank cuts us a check for a portion of the money (50% or 30% maybe). This takes an extra few weeks of course. Then after we are 50% done with the work, they send another check. And they do come out and inspect the house. Then after 100% completion, they send the rest of the money. So I'm not sure how this will work. If we don't fix the roof that may or may not be damaged, we might not get all of the money. Maybe we can talk to the bank and see what they think. Or maybe our roof is more damaged than we thought. The roof on this house is 3 years old. It's very steep (VERY) so difficult to climb on. What's next here?? Not sure yet.
I slept pretty bad last night. My pubic bone hurts bad. I think this kid has horns on his head... My belly is hurting today and the BH contractions are crampy. I woke up sleeping on my belly this morning. Yes, my belly is too big to sleep on. That did not feel good at all for an hour or so.
My photographer called and she can't take our maternity pictures on Friday afternoon. So she is coming tomorrow afternoon, which means I have to leave work really early, and Nathan won't be able to be there. I struggled with if I should do it tomorrow or not, but I decided to do it. We have a good camera, and I can get a friend or Mom to take pics of us together. I just want a professional to take pics of me that will be good memories of how my body looks all big and pregnant (ok, so maybe not so big, but definitely pregnant). I thought about waiting till I'm bigger, but with holidays coming, it might be difficult.
Good news - We did get an estimate from a local contractor for the damages to the house (not including the possible roof damage), so that will help move along the insurance claim. And I think Nathan is going to fix the part of the roof (small flat section) that is leaking into the nursery.
Hope everybody has a great day and not a Wrong Wednesday!
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
I finally took the quiz. I couldn't do it at work for some reason. I just answered how seemed best, but I'm a little surprised at being a Joan. She doesn't seem very nice... A lot of it is true, but some is a little too harsh for me. Or maybe not...
Your result for Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else? Mad Men-era Female Icon Quiz...
You Are a Joan!
You are a Joan -- "I need to succeed"
Joans are energetic, optimistic, self-assured, and goal oriented.
How to Get Along with Me
* Leave me alone when I am doing my work.
* Give me honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback.
* Help me keep my environment harmonious and peaceful.
* Don't burden me with negative emotions.
* Tell me you like being around me.
* Tell me when you're proud of me or my accomplishments.What I Like About Being a Joan
* being optimistic, friendly, and upbeat
* providing well for my family
* being able to recover quickly from setbacks and to charge ahead to the next challenge
* staying informed, knowing what's going on
* being competent and able to get things to work efficiently
* being able to motivate peopleWhat's Hard About Being a Joan
* having to put up with inefficiency and incompetence
* the fear on not being -- or of not being seen as -- successful
* comparing myself to people who do things better
* struggling to hang on to my success
* putting on facades in order to impress people
* always being "on." It's exhausting.Joans as Children Often
* work hard to receive appreciation for their accomplishments
* are well liked by other children and by adults
* are among the most capable and responsible children in their class or school
* are active in school government and clubs or are quietly busy working on their own projectsJoans as Parents
* are consistent, dependable, and loyal
* struggle between wanting to spend time with their children and wanting to get more work done
* expect their children to be responsible and organized
I will be off this Friday to go to Houston for our ultrasound. Then Friday afternoon, we are getting maternity pictures taken!! I'm excited. I've been wanting to do them, but I don't want to spend much money. I found a local photographer offering a great deal for a one hour session and about 15 prints for $60. That's just what I wanted, a little book of pictures for us to look back on. And she's going to come to our house! We'll do some outside and some inside, some just me, and some me and Nathan.
Next week I will work Mon, Tues, and Wed. I have an appt Mon, so I will be leaving early. I'll probably leave early Wed too to go to the grocery store before it gets too crazy and crowded. I can't believe Thanksgiving is practically here!! Then Christmas, then another birthday for me (Jan 1), then BABY TIME!!
Monday, November 17, 2008
"If you can't say anything nice, don't say nothing at all." Words to live by.
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Saturday, November 15, 2008
What exactly am I talking about? I could put this to a few situations I've been in. I was just looking through my pics trying to find one to share with you and these thoughts just came out.
This is a waterfall we went to in North Carolina somewhere along the Blue Ridge Mountain highway to nowhere.
I hope everyone has a great weekend.
Friday, November 14, 2008
I’ve been reflecting a lot on my childhood, the good and the bad parts, and thinking about how Chesley’s childhood will be. Me and mom were always very close, and I know my kids will be close to her too. Just seeing the way Mya’s eyes light up when I mention Mimi (my mom) makes me excited for my child to feel that way. I grew up with a lot of love, but also a lot of anger from my dad. I know that has affected me and my brother. Just the thought of being a parent makes me think about certain situations, and I shudder to think that I could get so angry at my child. On a more positive note, I was very close to my grandparents. I have so many happy memories with them. Grandma passed away in 2003, but Grampa is thankfully still with us and doing well. I’m sad when I think that my kids will not know my Grandma, but her love for me and my brother added so much to our lives and will not be forgotten.
What kind of mom will I be? Here are my feelings about that now. We will revisit this after he’s born to see what I stick with and right and wrong this is!
I know I will be anal about germs and being gentle with him when he is newborn and very young. He will not be in large crowds of people for at least 6 weeks. It will make me very nervous for children to handle him. I won’t like people kissing him all over, (MOM…). I’ve already told Mom about my no kissing rule, one kiss on the forehead is good. Ok, so very anal.
I will breastfeed hopefully for one year, so he probably won’t get to spend the night away from me till he is weaned. I can’t see myself trying to pump in the middle of the night to relieve my breasts while he is away. Hopefully when he gets older I’ll chill out and let things slide.
I will not be anal about solid foods. He will get French fries, cookies, ice cream, and sweets. He will also get fruits and veggies, but I want him to enjoy food and learn moderation.
It will be hard for me to let him make big messes. I’m sort of a clean freak. I will not let toys take over my house.
He will not sleep in the bed with us. The risk for SIDS is enough to scare me away from that. Plus Nathan throws elbows around, so it wouldn’t be very safe. I’m planning on trying to keep him in the playpen for a few weeks until he sleeps at least a few hours at a time. Then we’ll move him to his bed.
Only time will tell…
Thursday, November 13, 2008
I have not forgotten what a struggle I went through to get pregnant. I will never forget how it feels to want a baby and not be able to get pregnant on my own. I've already given all of the details in one of my first posts, so I won't go into all of that.
I sometimes feel bad about complaining too much about the pregnancy. It really is difficult to carry around and make a baby. God promised us after the fall of Adam and Eve that it would be difficult. But I am extremely thankful that I am given the opportunity to bring one of God's children into my family.
Since I was very young, I've always loved babies and children. I've always known that I wanted to have a baby. Getting married was very exciting for me because I knew that the time was coming where I could have a baby. We started trying after being married a little over a year with no luck. I saw friends and family have babies, planned and unplanned, some after the first try or a few months of trying. That is so hard to see, but I resolved myself that I would be joyful for the families for their new babies. I would not let my IF (infertility) make me bitter. I truly loved every child that I held, keeping my jealousy at bay. Not to say it wasn't hard. After holding a new baby or going to a baby shower, I would go home and slip into a brief depression. I'm glad that Nathan was there for me through that and was always good to me. Baby showers were so hard. I really enjoyed them, but I always dreaded when people asked me, "When are you having a baby?". I didn't realized how hard baby showers were for me until I attended one about a month ago and had such a great time and felt so excited for the new mom-to-be. It was a completely different experience that I had ever felt.
I never really gave it much thought as to what kind of pregnant girl I would be. Here are the two main categories of pregnant women (according to Hollie).
The Fragile Flower - This pregnant girl loves the idea of being a new mom and having a precious child, however, she complains a lot, is always tired, always at the dr or calling the dr worrying, and has a hard time being pregnant. She likes to stay home and rest.
The Warrior Woman - This strong woman thinks that all woman should carry on with life as normal through pregnancy, keep exercising, cooking, cleaning, working, doesn't experience many painful symptoms, and if she does, she doesn't worry and doesn' t complain.
Most ladies probably fall somewhere in between. Let's say Fragile Flower is a 0 and Warrior Woman is a 10. I would give myself... about a 3.5. I do work, clean, cook, but not as much as normal. I go to the dr a lot, and I certainly like to stay home and rest as much as possible. Something is always hurting. I thought I would been more of a Warrior Woman, but I'm not. I don't feel like I can help it. I do possess a slight glow of pregnancy. I like talking about the baby. I like rubbing my belly and feeling the baby move.
So, my point... I'm not really sure. I just wanted to share how I'm feeling and to say to my friends who are TTC (trying to conceive) that I've been there, and when I say that I'm thinking about you and praying for you, I really am. I really want each of you to get pregnant, soon. My meager advice, if you are the praying type, pray a lot. Go see the RE (reproductive endocrinologist) or your OB. Take all the help you can get. I'm thankful I was in a clinical study, and we did not have to spend a lot of money. But I would if I had to. I say to go for it. Your best chances are when you are young. You don't want to pass up your best chance and then decide later that you do want to get help from the dr. Have a support system, internet friends going through the same things as you, church, family, friends. Keep your husband close. And for the most part, take any advice you get (including mine) and put it to the side and follow your heart.
If you are not TTC and are just a friend reading my blog, take heart for your friends who are TTC, and remember that you never know who is sufferering from IF. They don't always tell people. So try to be sensitive when you ask people when they are having babies.
For my fellow pregnant friends, here's to each of us, with all of our differences and likenesses, may our children be healthy and our husbands stick by our sides! And just for fun, give yourself a score on the Fragile Flower - Warrior Woman scale.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
We were supposed to get the 3D u/s today. I've been really looking forward to it, but the baby was not in a good position to see his face. The tech looked at him in 2D when we first got there, and he was head down on his tummy. Then I saw the dr, and she looked again. He had flipped over, and we could see his face profile in 2D, but when she turned on the 3D, it didn't look very good. We could see his face in 3D for a second, but with being head down, face wedged in, no fluid around his face, the picture quality is really bad. So we will try again in two weeks, but I think we might just have to wait to see his face until he comes out, and I'm ok with that.
I hope everyone is having a good day.
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
We are having a contractor come to give us a bid on our hurricane damage at our house today. That will be nice to get us on our way to getting our claim money from the insurance and get things repaired.
Tomorrow is the 3D u/s!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008
I got some cute pics yesterday that I will post later. Tonight is the breastfeeding class. So hopefully it will be good.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Friday, November 7, 2008
Thursday, November 6, 2008
1. 1st trimester "morning sickness" is really "all day sickness" and is not just nausea. It's feeling completely horrible 24/7 from your head to your toes.
2. The nausea also translated into major food aversions. I couldn't hardly eat meat, definitely no steak, chicken, pork. I basically lived off of nachos, chicken nuggets, french fries, sandwiches, mac and cheese, cereal, and pizza. I think my cravings were basically me wanting only one of the few foods I liked at the time. This lasted till about 20 weeks.
3. I have slept pretty bad since day 1 of pregnancy. Combination of progesterone supplements, using the bathroom every hour or two, discomfort, and just plain ole insomnia.
4. Braxton-Hicks contractions have affected me much more than I ever thought. I knew about them, but a few weeks ago, I started getting them regularly, about once an hour during the day, and many more at night. The ones at night are painful, like bad cramps. It makes me nervous about pre-term labor. I think if I get more than 5-6 an hour for two hours, I will probably make a trip to the hospital. And of course it's at night because if it was during the day, I could just see the dr in her office.
5. The amount of worrying that I do is much more than I thought! From getting the BFP, to the first beta, second, and third, then the first ultrasound (that was a big one!), then each milestone, now I worry about pre-term labor, there is so much to worry about. I'm trying to trust God to take care of us. I just want to pay attention to my body and do the best I can to follow drs orders.
6. The nesting instinct is so strong! I bugged Nathan so much until he got the baby bed, and now it just gets to collect dust for a while. And it's killing me to wait another month for a baby shower. I want his room to be ready now! So strange...
7. The joy and anticipation of his arrival is also very intense. Sometimes I close my eyes and picture him laying in my arms, and I get tears of joy from the excitement.
8. My husband - on some things he's responded a little worse than I expected, but for the most part he's been great. It's really neat to see him talk to the baby in my belly and get excited to feel the baby move. Seeing him in the childbirth class doing the dumb breathing exercises with me was pretty fun too. I can't wait to see him as a dad holding his son!
9. The tiredness... I guess I never knew I could get so tired after sitting at a computer all day.
10. People touching my belly uninvited!
11. People (men and women at work and family and church) making stupid comments to me and asking dumb questions. I had a guy at work the other day say, "There's chubby." Another guy yesterday asked, "Still pregnant? Hahaha." Uh... I said, "no" and walked off. It's so annoying.
12. The amount of time I spend thinking about pregnancy and baby! 24/7! It's really hard to concentrate on anything else. I wonder if it will be better or worse once he gets here.